When I start dating or get into a long term relationship, I'd like for both me and my partner to be able to openly communicate with each other. I'd look for a guy that has common interests as I do, shares my same values, can open me up to new things, and can support me emotionally and financially. I want us to have a relationship built first and foremost on love, then trust and communication, honesty, etc etc.Without these things I feel like a relationship can't truly flourish. It'd be a relationship sure, but would it be a stable or happy one?
I feel like today, relationships aren't about anything above - they don't really revolve around making both people in the relationship happy. So many people are quick to blame their significant other for things that go wrong in their relationship. They never stop to ask themselves if it could've been something they did or didn't do. Relationships today are also so preoccupied with financial problems and other worries, especially if the couple has children. No relationship is ever blissfully happy...modern society, shows so many reality shows about hooking up and catching cheaters that it seems almost impossible to find a guy that can be and do all of the that you want. I look at my parent's relationship and wish to have what they have one day: an open relationship where they're both learning from each other and challenging the other.
I also think it is important to find a partner who shares the same interests but who can also introduce you to new things so that the relationship is not just about self gain but sacrificing as well.
ReplyDeleteI agree with your comment that relationships today put the blame on the other person. No one ever thinks they are the problem because they are selfish to believe they could actually be the source of the problem.
ReplyDeleteHonesty in a relationship is really important to me too. In my opinion, communication really is what makes or breaks a couple. In order to be with one another, you need to take turns talking and listening--keep the air clear and the conversations open.
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